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Bouncing Back

Recovering from failure and setbacks as a yoga teacher. By Jane Brooks

Epic failure — it happens to us all. Maybe we gave the wrong change to a customer when working in retail, leaving the till majorly short at the end of the day. Maybe you worked in a hospital and forgot to give a chart to a doctor, leaving a patient sitting for hours. We all make mistakes.

But when we are a yoga teacher, that’s our identity— and epic failures can leave us questioning everything. We mix up our lefts and rights, we pay rent on a class space and no one shows up, we create a digital product and no one buys. All normal.

But I am talking about the kind of failure that has a major effect on your mental and/or physical wellbeing, and maybe even your financial stability and your future. The event that was a disaster. Negative reviews and demands for refunds. The high-maintenance client you couldn’t satisfy. The large corporate event you never got paid for. The yoga studio colleague who undermined you. You try to move on from the situation, but you still feel lost and bereft.

For me, it was a yoga holiday that became my failure. Two years of work, organisation, money, love, hopes, and dreams - and everything went wrong from the moment I stepped on the plane. I was dealing with logistical disasters, culture shocks, and misplaced expectations. I ignored red flags when putting the group, venue, and itinerary together, and despite leading multiple retreats, events and workshops up to this point, perhaps I wasn't ready for a yoga holiday on this scale.

In trying to make it amazing, I gave too much of myself, and sometimes people take advantage of this. I had no support system in place for me; I should have had an assistant, friend, or partner with me. Alone, I crumbled.

I know someday it will make sense, the reason I had this experience. For now, my lesson is wisdom, and I hope you can learn from this.

Remind yourself of your dharma

Very few people go into teaching yoga blind. More often than not, it’s a person’s second career in their working life, maybe even their third, fourth or fifth. They usually have life experience under their belt, their own spiritual journey, their own dark night of the soul that they overcame. They come to teaching with empathy, hope and openness. They are not taking it lightly.

Yoga teacher training is expensive, and the return on investment is often just not there. It’s highly likely that yoga is your dharma (life’s purpose). You didn’t come this far just to come this far. You didn’t come on this journey to give up after this mistake, this failure, this lesson. No, that is not what the universe had planned for you. This is part of your journey, and you will be a better teacher and student for it. I promise.

"Take the advice you would give your best friend – what would you say to them? Control what you can control and leave the rest up to the universe. You have to forgive yourself for your mistakes, regardless of whether anyone else does."

Ask for feedback

A loss of confidence that a setback often brings can be detrimental. You might feel tempted to take a break from teaching, or quit altogether. I would ask you to reconsider and not rush anything if this arises for you. Have a pity party, sure, but then get back on the horse.

Teach where you are already trusted and valued. This is important. Now is not the time for new ventures. Show up for your trusted clients, your classes, and yourself. If you are lucky enough to have friends who are clients, or clients who are friends, ask them for feedback. Ask for testimonials and reviews. Remind yourself why you are doing this. Remind yourself of the good you are doing — how you help your clients sleep, improve their balance, find some joy and relaxation, start their spiritual journey, whatever it is.

Baby steps

Be kind to yourself, please. Take small baby steps to mind yourself. Utilise your chosen tools — meditation, affirmations, restorative yoga, breathwork, self-care. It’s easy to do these things when all is well, but when the going gets tough, that’s when these practices are really needed. Your nervous system needs to be taken care of with loving care.

Take the advice you would give your best friend — what would you say to them? Control what you can control and leave the rest up to the universe. You have to forgive yourself for your mistakes, regardless of whether anyone else does.

Get help

Don’t hold this alone. If you are really struggling, if this situation is dragging on for you mentally or is triggering past events and traumas, please talk to a friend, family member, or a professional. If some time has passed and everyone around you thinks you are okay, but you know deep down you are still ruminating, please do speak to a professional — a doctor, a therapist — and get some help. There are numerous in-person and online options available at every price point.

My therapist told me — and I agree — that the best teachers, the best healers, are the ones who have been there, have suffered, have overcome. And my friend, this will only make you stronger.

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